During a session last week, a client and I began exploring her previous relationship with a HigherPower/God and how she lost that connection. As we talked about how she drifted from this source of support, she shared all the ways in which life had increasingly become more difficult to navigate, emotions seemed insurmountable, unhealthy dynamics in her marriage intensified, and she felt so alone.  However, we started to talk about the benefit of this type of relationship and the love and support that is waiting for her. She discussed her beliefs and desire to reconnect and ways to recultivate this relationship that was once a larger part of her life.

The very next session I asked her how her past week had been and she said, “I’ve been thanking you almost everyday” as she was so grateful I had initiated the conversation about her spiritual beliefs. What happened next was so incredible and heart warming to witness…her face lit up as she shared that she has been more intentional about staying in communication with her Higher Power and started to experience peace, clarity, and a greater ability to acknowledge and work through core triggers.

This is just a small reminder of the power of believing in something bigger than ourselves and the beauty of knowing we are not alone…EVER. There is something greater working for us and through us if we can get out of our own way.

There is no need to try and will your way through difficulties, there is always support available if you look up, reach out to a friend or family member, listen to your own intuition, are working with professionals, etc. Your Higher Power is ready and willing to give you what you need when you need it, if you can believe you are worth receiving it.

Hope & Recovery

Anyone who knows me well has most likely heard me share that my heart desires to bring light and love to those in my life…

For this reason, I feel so blessed to be in a profession that allows me to be of service to others. My hope is that all the pain and challenges I have experienced as well as the recovery gained, will serve as a light to those I work with…that I might be able to guide them on their journey and provide hope and healing.

Yesterday, I received a handwritten letter from a client sharing how excited she is for this journey and her growth. It made me smile and was a beautiful reminder that I am right where I should be, as is she!

If you are in need of support and thinking about therapy, please know that you are WORTH taking care of, investing in, and loving. And if I can provide a safe space for you and support you in this process, I’d be happy to connect!


Recovery: Casa Palmera & Dr. Mary Spease

Had a wonderful lunch last week with Ernie Georggin from Casa Palmera. So thankful to know someone dedicated to connecting those in need with recovery. Our conversation was another reminder of how impactful and healing the support of a recovery community can be.

If you are ready to take that leap of faith and ask for help, you can view Casa Palmera’s website here: www.CasaPalmera.com

If you are the loved one of an addict/alcoholic, your heart most likely needs healing too. You are not alone and healing is possible. Feel free to contact me and I’d be happy to discuss how to best support you in this journey: www.DrMarySpease.com



So many things have been happening this past year that I haven’t been able to post as much as I would like and share all the exciting things that have been happening!

For now, I wanted to share that I moved office locations this past week!!! Initially, I was hesitant to move away from UTC as I was in such a convenient location, in a beautiful building, and it was my first office home here in San Diego after relocating from LA. However, the gentleman I rent from (Dr. Charlie Nelson) found a wonderful location in Sorrento Mesa and built a brand new space just for us in an incredibly warm and peaceful building! It is beyond beautiful and professional!!! For those who’d like to know where I am now located so you know where to visit or to send referrals, here is the address:

5405 Morehouse Drive, Suite 330
San Diego, CA 92121


CURRENT GROUP: Healing Co-Dependent & Destructive Relationship Patterns

I’m currently facilitating a women’s group through Julieann Myers’ Center for Healthy Change in Del Mar. This group provides support for women struggling with codependent and destructive relationships patterns who want to learn how to better take care of themselves and foster healthy connections with others.  The women I’ve had the honor of working with are wonderful and it is incredible to witness their ability to challenge themselves and support one another through the process.  This particular group runs for 12 weeks and is limited to 6 women to help create a greater sense of safety and intimacy.  Below is a more in depth description for the group and subsequent details:

     Do you find yourself in relationships where your primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, confidante, or enabler of someone else’s dysfunction? Do you place a lower priority on your needs while being preoccupied with the needs of others? Are your most important relationships more about meeting other’s needs before meeting your own? Join Dr. Mary Spease, relationship therapist, to learn how to change co-dependent/enmeshed relationship patterns into interdependent/healthy relationships where you can get your needs met too!

     Learn how to take care of your own needs and develop a healthier relationship with yourself and other important people in your life. This small group format allows women to share and learn in a supportive, safe environment. Space is limited to six women. The group will be held on Thursday evenings from 6:45 to 8:00 p.m. in Del Mar.  

     Cost per group is 75.00 for individuals committing to a three month participation period up-front. For those electing to attend on a month to month basis, cost is $90.00 per session.  If you’re interested in joining, please feel free to contact me at Mary@CenterForHealthyChange.com or call 760-634-1704.

Dr. Mary Spease Women’s Group: Healing Co-Dependent & Destructive Relationship Patterns

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