Self-Esteem

FREE SOULPAWS WORKSHOP: JULY 2ND!

Shannon Kopp, one of the founders of SoulPaws, will be hosting a free eating disorder support group including animal assisted therapy on Sunday, July 2nd from 1-2pm!!!

This workshop will be held at the San Diego Humane Society and will provide the opportunity to work with their animal therapy team of dogs and miniature horses.

For more information about how you can reserve a spot, please contact Shannon at SoulPawsBox@gmail.com.

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MONTECATINI’S SUMMER OF RECOVERY SALE!

If you’ve been considering taking that leap of faith into recovery, now just might be the time!

Montecatini is offering 5 FREE full day sessions of customized recovery services throughout June and July! Their dedicated and passionate team are there to provide the gentle and loving support needed at the beginning of one’s healing journey.

If you and or anyone you know could benefit from such a gift, please feel free to check out their website below or call 760.436.2657 and ask for Elisa.

Montecatini Eating Disorder Treatment

 

Montecatini Recovery

FIGHT THE NEW DRUG SALE!!!

Fight the New Drug is a group of “passionate and innovative problem-solvers who want to make a difference in the world… [their] mission is to raise awareness on the harmful effects of pornography…using only science, facts, and personal accounts”.
 
For anyone who has struggled with porn/sex addiction or has been effected by a loved one’s addiction, then you know first hand the devastating impact of it. Compulsive/addictive pornography use truly robs an individual and their partners of one of life’s most beautiful experiences…honest, genuine, and faithful love.
 
Join other fighters around the world and share the message that “Porn Kills Love”. Fight the New Drug is offering 15% off everything in their store through today!!! Use the code: 15FIGHTERGEAR. FIGHT THE NEW DRUG
 
Also, if you are struggling with porn and/or sex addiction, many have found sexual sobriety through therapy as well as support through the following group:  
 
If you are the loved one/partner of someone struggling with porn and/or sex addiction, I would be happy to connect with you and discuss how I can support you along your recovery journey. In addition, you too can find healing through the following support group:
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FREE SOULPAWS WORKSHOP THIS WEEKEND!

Shannon Kopp, one of the founders of SoulPaws, will be hosting a free online workshop this Saturday, May 27th from 1pm-2pm PDT for anyone suffering from an eating disorder.

SoulPaws provides free support to those in need of healing and work with a variety of service animals to help, “access a place of light-heartedness, inner-wisdom, and compassion deep inside”.

For more information about how you can join their free online workshop, please check out their page below:

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Montecatini Eating Disorder Treatment

What I was doing today:

•Feeling blessed for the gift of walking alongside my clients in their journey of healing and recovery

•Spending time at the ocean for my own self-care

•Visiting the wonderful staff at Montecatini Treatment Center! Thank you to Elisa & Brittany for their time and sharing more about how Montecatini’s 3 houses create a safe and supportive environment to help women overcome struggles with food and body image. So thankful to have an incredible program right here in San Diego!

(These words were written on a white board in one of the group rooms and I believe it’s worth thinking about)

http://www.montecatinieatingdisorder.com

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HIGHER POWER

During a session last week, a client and I began exploring her previous relationship with a HigherPower/God and how she lost that connection. As we talked about how she drifted from this source of support, she shared all the ways in which life had increasingly become more difficult to navigate, emotions seemed insurmountable, unhealthy dynamics in her marriage intensified, and she felt so alone.  However, we started to talk about the benefit of this type of relationship and the love and support that is waiting for her. She discussed her beliefs and desire to reconnect and ways to recultivate this relationship that was once a larger part of her life.

The very next session I asked her how her past week had been and she said, “I’ve been thanking you almost everyday” as she was so grateful I had initiated the conversation about her spiritual beliefs. What happened next was so incredible and heart warming to witness…her face lit up as she shared that she has been more intentional about staying in communication with her Higher Power and started to experience peace, clarity, and a greater ability to acknowledge and work through core triggers.

This is just a small reminder of the power of believing in something bigger than ourselves and the beauty of knowing we are not alone…EVER. There is something greater working for us and through us if we can get out of our own way.

There is no need to try and will your way through difficulties, there is always support available if you look up, reach out to a friend or family member, listen to your own intuition, are working with professionals, etc. Your Higher Power is ready and willing to give you what you need when you need it, if you can believe you are worth receiving it.

CURRENT GROUP: Healing Co-Dependent & Destructive Relationship Patterns

I’m currently facilitating a women’s group through Julieann Myers’ Center for Healthy Change in Del Mar. This group provides support for women struggling with codependent and destructive relationships patterns who want to learn how to better take care of themselves and foster healthy connections with others.  The women I’ve had the honor of working with are wonderful and it is incredible to witness their ability to challenge themselves and support one another through the process.  This particular group runs for 12 weeks and is limited to 6 women to help create a greater sense of safety and intimacy.  Below is a more in depth description for the group and subsequent details:

     Do you find yourself in relationships where your primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, confidante, or enabler of someone else’s dysfunction? Do you place a lower priority on your needs while being preoccupied with the needs of others? Are your most important relationships more about meeting other’s needs before meeting your own? Join Dr. Mary Spease, relationship therapist, to learn how to change co-dependent/enmeshed relationship patterns into interdependent/healthy relationships where you can get your needs met too!

     Learn how to take care of your own needs and develop a healthier relationship with yourself and other important people in your life. This small group format allows women to share and learn in a supportive, safe environment. Space is limited to six women. The group will be held on Thursday evenings from 6:45 to 8:00 p.m. in Del Mar.  

     Cost per group is 75.00 for individuals committing to a three month participation period up-front. For those electing to attend on a month to month basis, cost is $90.00 per session.  If you’re interested in joining, please feel free to contact me at Mary@CenterForHealthyChange.com or call 760-634-1704.

Dr. Mary Spease Women’s Group: Healing Co-Dependent & Destructive Relationship Patterns

NEW GROUP FORMING: Healing Co-Dependent & Destructive Relationship Patterns

I am happy to announce that I am facilitating a NEW GROUP through Julieann Myers’ Center for Healthy Change in Del Mar. Given my passion for working with loved ones of addicts/alcoholics, we’ve created a broader group to provide support for women struggling with codependent and destructive relationships patterns. Below is a description for the group and subsequent details. Please feel free to contact me to register:

 

Do you find yourself in relationships where your primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, confidante, or enabler of someone else’s dysfunction? Do you place a lower priority on your needs while being preoccupied with the needs of others? Are your most important relationships more about meeting other’s needs before meeting your own? Join Dr. Mary Spease, relationship therapist, to learn how to change co-dependent/enmeshed relationship patterns into interdependent/healthy relationships where you can get your needs met too!

Learn how to take care of your own needs and develop a healthier relationship with yourself and other important people in your life. This small group format allows women to share and learn in a supportive, safe environment. Space is limited to six women. The group will be held on Thursday evenings from 6:45 to 8:00 p.m. in Del Mar.

Cost per group is 75.00 for individuals committing to a three month participation period up-front. For those electing to attend on a month to month basis, cost is $90.00 per session. Contact us at 760-634-1704 to schedule, or email Mary@CenterForHealthyChange.com

Dr. Mary Spease, New Group: Healing Co-Dependent & Destructive Relationship Patterns

Independent Contractor for Julieann Myers’ Center for Healthy Change:

Julieann and I have known one another for some time now and I have always admired and respected her, not only as a therapist but as a person. Throughout the past year, we have been exploring ways to work together and collaborate in our passion for helping others.

Recently, I have joined her lovely practice (Center for Healthy Change) as an independent contractor. I feel so blessed to be a part of the team as they have all be so welcoming! I’m looking forward to supporting her practice and serving new clients!

If you would like to know more about Center for Healthy Change and/or what services I will be providing, please feel free to view our website:

Center for Healthy Change

Self-Esteem

All too often our self-esteem is hinged on things outside of ourselves and outside of our control. How we feel on any given day may be dependent on receiving praise from our parents, having our friends validate what we think or say, or hearing that our partners are attracted to us. These external validations often makes us feel good and seem to boost our sense of self-esteem.

Now, there is nothing wrong with another person’s kindness making us feel good inside or putting a smile on our face. Where it becomes problematic is when we have moved past appreciating these pleasant exchanges to depending on them. Just as easily as someone’s affirmations can brighten our day, we often let other’s negative comments pull us down. We have no control over what someone will think of us or say to us in any given moment. Therefore, if we are dependent on others to make us feel good we give up control over our own mood and give that power to others.

SELF-esteem is truly something we need to create by our SELF. Often, we can strengthen how we feel about ourself by speaking or behaving in ways that fill us with a sense of integrity. We can challenge ourselves to make choices we feel good about. The beauty about self-esteem is that no matter what is happening around us or within a given relationship, we can choose to nurture it by thinking, speaking, or behaving in estimable ways.

“I have learned that self-esteem is just that—self-esteem. Not wife-esteem or lover-esteem or even sponsor-esteem. It has to come from me, not from other’s opinions of me. And the way to gain self-esteem is by performing estimable acts…” ~Courage to Change (One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II)